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funnyordie:

115 Rejected Emojis for World Emoji Day

Happy World Emoji Day, everybody! Celebrate with this tribute to those emojis that sadly didn’t make this year’s cut.

See the rest here.

magusworkshop:

turnonthemoonlight:

magusworkshop:

marieluc76:

magusworkshop:

marieluc76:

nudityandnerdery:

moonflowerchilde:

Beauty standards effect men just as much as it effects women, lets stop ignoring it.

Yeah, there are beauty standards for guys. Yeah, they are hard to live up to. But it’s foolish to act as if A) there isn’t a wider spectrum of acceptable attractiveness for men, and B) that a man’s value isn’t so heavily weighted on his appearance as a woman’s value is.

I mean, I get it. Beauty standards suck. But while there’s the main beauty standard for women that seems to often be a requirement for success, and it’s a fairly narrow one, there’s plenty of successful male role models out there who aren’t that attractive. It’s hard to be Ken, but society also tells you it’s okay to be Adam Sandler or Stephen King or John Belushi, too.

Ugh, putting my two cents in where it doesn’t belong again, but just because it is harder to be Barbie does not mean Ken isn’t allowed to feel it is hard to be him too. Yeah, women are expected to be a certain type of pretty by society, but society still puts pressure on men to adhere to certain standards of attractiveness. Adam Sandler, Steven King and Beluci are not considered attractive, they are accepted for other merits and not considered especially easy on the eyes. Same as Rosanne Barr, J. K. Rowling and Sandra Bernhard are not considered beautiful, but are celebrated instead for their talents. Please stop marginalizing other people’s experiences and feelings just because others have it harder than them.

As someone who personally refuses to follow the popular views of what beauty is, I know what it is like to be dismissed just because I am unattractive, to have people ignore me and my opinions and what I bring too the table, but this experience has left me able to see when the same thing happens to others, and this includes men. Just because someone is not the same gender or have the same skin pigmentation, or doesn’t believe in exactly what you believe in does not mean you are allowed to marginalize them.

If you truly want equality, it starts with empathy. Start seeing people as people and not as colors or genders. Stop judging people for what they are born with, their existence just as valid as yours.

The difference is that men are not commonly attacked, verbally or physically, for being outside of the masculine standards for attractiveness. They are not refused employment, or even health treatment or support, based on being conventionally unattractive. There is also a strong societal narrative in “nerd” dramedies supporting the conventionally unattractive man “getting the girl” and saving the world.

Society is set up to support men, even the unattractive ones, emotionally well before women. The Masculinity Box is a thing, but it’s not a comparable thing by any means. 

I still stand by my belief that just because someone does not have it as hard as someone else, doesn’t mean their feelings are invalid. Yes, society is set up to cater to Caucasian males, in general, but as individuals we are left to fend for ourselves.

On the topic of men being more emotionally supported for being unattractive, does not mean that society is kind when they take comfort in said emotional support. Those of us who grew up in the last century have between taught that females may have little to no worth of we are not beautiful, but also that men are supposed to be self sufficient rocks, not allowed to show their feelings and to seek help for any emotional problem is to prove you were not a man.

I have seen just as many men as women crumble under the pressure to be what society dictates they should be. I do not mean to be rude, and I am not trying to sway anyone over to my personal beliefs, I am just trying to show both sides of the coin, argue for everyone who has experienced the turmoil of not being what media and peers say we should be.

It’s still not comparable. I am a conventionally unattractive man. I’m overweight, I’m disabled, I’m autistic, and I wasn’t born with perfect features. I don’t have a rich voice. I don’t have a fun skill. I’m awkward, weird,and my taste in clothing is archaic. I’m poor, and I’ve been poor my whole life.

It’s still harder for women. It will always be harder on women. It is not “just as hard” to be a man because we can’t ever know that comparison. We can’t ever look at it from a meta-structural perspective. We know, sociologically, scientifically, that it’s harder on women.

Yes, there is the Masculinity Box. Yes, there are societal expectations on men. But they are not just as bad.

Can we PLEASE stop comparing? Equality doesn’t know comparison. I’m writing this as a 17 year-old girl, who according to all of this should be in the highest range of vulnerability to social/beauty standards. But as young as I am, I never stop to worry about this social pressure to be a certain type of beautiful, which while totally existent, it doesn’t stop strong women to be whatever they want to be. It is true that media eg: movies feature condescendence for the nerdy caucasian guy who ends “getting the girl”, but still the actors that play these kind of characters are almost always the “stunning-guy-behind-those-nerdy-glasses-and-ugly-clothing” type. I think nobody should classify themselves as victims ready to be eaten by the pressure of whatever standards are currently held. We are all stronger than this, and there’s no use in making a competition of “Who has it harder”. Okay, yeah, you have it harder. So what? What do you get from having it harder? Why not start taking pride in being stronger than life rather than focusing of how hard we have it? Believe me, no one is condemned to live unhappy only because they are considered unattractive by a brainless sector of the world population, even if they want us to see it that way. There’s always people out there who care about what really matters.

Sigh.

Alright, the reasons why this is important.

What you’re looking at are the most obvious, gross elements of culture. The overt messages we receive from media and the like. What you’re not looking at is how this informs everything else. The biggest part of this is the Halo Effect (a basic rundown on Wikipedia). How this impacts social expectations of beauty is that women are categorically treated worse than men because men are categorically seen as closer to the masculine ideal than women are to the feminine ideal no matter where they land on individual spectrums. 

So even though there is a masculine ideal that men police each other with, they are united in policing women for women’s standard of beauty and judge women for judging men on the men’s standard of beauty through media. Women are told on two fronts that not only must they conform, men do not need to conform as much. Men, on the other hand, are taught to expect a woman to perform for them while they only have to try their hardest and they can take the noble path of oppression without having to consider the avenues of that oppression.

This isn’t about how strong anyone is. It’s not about how powerful a single individual is to stand up to oppression. These are systemic problems that create a global social and emotional environment that everyone lives and operates in. It’s as if women have to always swim while men are allowed to walk normally. Or if women have to carry a steamer chest full of stones around while men are unburdened. No matter how hard the climb up the Mountain Of Beauty is, men have it far easier systemically and they do this by offloading their own burdens on to women. Categorically, not individually.

By confusing the strength of any single individual with what is appropriate for a social system to engage in, you forgive the masculine effect on society by saying that if someone fails due to social pressure then they are weak and, consequently, deserve whatever they receive. Even though they aren’t playing on a level playing field.

The fact that one group has it worse matters. It matters because these are things that affect the groups, not just individuals. There’s mountains and mountains of research in sociology about this, from the Halo Effect to Stereotype Threat to Racism through Beauty Standards. Men cannot claim, objectively, to have it “just as bad” because they only benefit from the sexist fallout of the standard of beauty, even if other men are judging them. They have problems, yes, but their problems are not comparable because they are not judged nearly as harshly for failing. Yet they reinforce this inequality by trying to claim that their problems are “just as bad” through equality-silencing.

Yes, I’m well aware of that, but specifying on the matter over and over again will end up in the same point that in fact that women face worse pressure than men. My point is, how does comparing and giving men their obvious responsibility in an accusing kind of way and shoving that women are drowning in beauty standards actually help us women? Awareness is first step, but further action is needed. We need girls —as a group— to learn to know themselves and take pride in being girls, that they are not weaker than men, and that they are worth it no matter how they look. So even if it sounds obvious to you, self confidence is key. Women are capable to make a difference in their reality day by day, and that starts with attitude. And yeah, sometimes big things start with individuals and small groups. As long as more and more women start to know their true value as human beings beyond what standards say, and stop letting these manipulation and mental slavery get to them, these standards would start to fade slowly and be taken less seriously with time. Mind-sets matter.

(Source: 103312, via bleeding-sugar)

malibu-cali:

sw4nlake:

enqlishwbu:

RULE 1 OF TUMBLR: Must reblog the creator every time he appears on your dash.

bby

if it wasn’t for him, I wouldn’t have met some of the best people I have in my life right now.

(Source: qalaxia, via evaannapaulabraun-deactivated20)

magusworkshop:

marieluc76:

magusworkshop:

marieluc76:

nudityandnerdery:

moonflowerchilde:

Beauty standards effect men just as much as it effects women, lets stop ignoring it.

Yeah, there are beauty standards for guys. Yeah, they are hard to live up to. But it’s foolish to act as if A) there isn’t a wider spectrum of acceptable attractiveness for men, and B) that a man’s value isn’t so heavily weighted on his appearance as a woman’s value is.

I mean, I get it. Beauty standards suck. But while there’s the main beauty standard for women that seems to often be a requirement for success, and it’s a fairly narrow one, there’s plenty of successful male role models out there who aren’t that attractive. It’s hard to be Ken, but society also tells you it’s okay to be Adam Sandler or Stephen King or John Belushi, too.

Ugh, putting my two cents in where it doesn’t belong again, but just because it is harder to be Barbie does not mean Ken isn’t allowed to feel it is hard to be him too. Yeah, women are expected to be a certain type of pretty by society, but society still puts pressure on men to adhere to certain standards of attractiveness. Adam Sandler, Steven King and Beluci are not considered attractive, they are accepted for other merits and not considered especially easy on the eyes. Same as Rosanne Barr, J. K. Rowling and Sandra Bernhard are not considered beautiful, but are celebrated instead for their talents. Please stop marginalizing other people’s experiences and feelings just because others have it harder than them.

As someone who personally refuses to follow the popular views of what beauty is, I know what it is like to be dismissed just because I am unattractive, to have people ignore me and my opinions and what I bring too the table, but this experience has left me able to see when the same thing happens to others, and this includes men. Just because someone is not the same gender or have the same skin pigmentation, or doesn’t believe in exactly what you believe in does not mean you are allowed to marginalize them.

If you truly want equality, it starts with empathy. Start seeing people as people and not as colors or genders. Stop judging people for what they are born with, their existence just as valid as yours.

The difference is that men are not commonly attacked, verbally or physically, for being outside of the masculine standards for attractiveness. They are not refused employment, or even health treatment or support, based on being conventionally unattractive. There is also a strong societal narrative in “nerd” dramedies supporting the conventionally unattractive man “getting the girl” and saving the world.

Society is set up to support men, even the unattractive ones, emotionally well before women. The Masculinity Box is a thing, but it’s not a comparable thing by any means. 

I still stand by my belief that just because someone does not have it as hard as someone else, doesn’t mean their feelings are invalid. Yes, society is set up to cater to Caucasian males, in general, but as individuals we are left to fend for ourselves.

On the topic of men being more emotionally supported for being unattractive, does not mean that society is kind when they take comfort in said emotional support. Those of us who grew up in the last century have between taught that females may have little to no worth of we are not beautiful, but also that men are supposed to be self sufficient rocks, not allowed to show their feelings and to seek help for any emotional problem is to prove you were not a man.

I have seen just as many men as women crumble under the pressure to be what society dictates they should be. I do not mean to be rude, and I am not trying to sway anyone over to my personal beliefs, I am just trying to show both sides of the coin, argue for everyone who has experienced the turmoil of not being what media and peers say we should be.

It’s still not comparable. I am a conventionally unattractive man. I’m overweight, I’m disabled, I’m autistic, and I wasn’t born with perfect features. I don’t have a rich voice. I don’t have a fun skill. I’m awkward, weird,and my taste in clothing is archaic. I’m poor, and I’ve been poor my whole life.

It’s still harder for women. It will always be harder on women. It is not “just as hard” to be a man because we can’t ever know that comparison. We can’t ever look at it from a meta-structural perspective. We know, sociologically, scientifically, that it’s harder on women.

Yes, there is the Masculinity Box. Yes, there are societal expectations on men. But they are not just as bad.

Can we PLEASE stop comparing? Equality doesn’t know comparison. I’m writing this as a 17 year-old girl, who according to all of this should be in the highest range of vulnerability to social/beauty standards. But as young as I am, I never stop to worry about this social pressure to be a certain type of beautiful, which while totally existent, it doesn’t stop strong women to be whatever they want to be. It is true that media eg: movies feature condescendence for the nerdy caucasian guy who ends “getting the girl”, but still the actors that play these kind of characters are almost always the “stunning-guy-behind-those-nerdy-glasses-and-ugly-clothing” type. I think nobody should classify themselves as victims ready to be eaten by the pressure of whatever standards are currently held. We are all stronger than this, and there’s no use in making a competition of “Who has it harder”. Okay, yeah, you have it harder. So what? What do you get from having it harder? Why not start taking pride in being stronger than life rather than focusing of how hard we have it? Believe me, no one is condemned to live unhappy only because they are considered unattractive by a brainless sector of the world population, even if they want us to see it that way. There’s always people out there who care about what really matters.

(Source: o-bee, via painoxide)

obeytheprophecy:

▲ obey the prophecy ▲
the door to wonderland

(via painoxide)

Rant about overreactions on Tumblr

If you are smart enough to know that the media tries to brainwash people, then you MUST be smart and strong enough not to depict yourself as a victim who lays responsibility on what media stereotypes as perfect or beautiful, or even on people who post on Tumblr for your self-hate attacks, or triggered self destructive behaviors. People need to stop glorifying sadness and helplessness. Why investing time on editing b/w images of slitted wrists with an overlayed melancholic phrase full of self pity? I guarantee you that most if not all people with depression and self harm issues would never consider posting a picture of what they just have done to themselves. I talk from experience with friends who have been there. It IS valid to talk to people you trust or even to strangers on the internet in case you are not feeling well. But even that is very different from trying to prove everybody HOW DEPRESSED THEY ARE and try to come off as a warrior of sorrow even if they are doing little to nothing to help themselves. Because no one will save you, not even those drugs given so easily by psychiatrists even to cases which are not close to serious, but more like emotions out of proportion and control. The world is like this and people need to grow balls. No one should search for pity as a relief. You were born to be more than a list of diagnosed disorders exhibited in a Tumblr bio. Nobody should want to be recognized for the faulty chemicals in their brains or for their permanent state of sadness and lack of hope, goals and motivation; neither for their bloody skin or for their annoying wish of being treated better just because of being a female. Everybody who can actually read and understand these words is EQUALLY capable of making of their life whatever they wish, and the only one who can stop you from that is yourself.

(Source: madworldnews, via firstladyjbko)

people on tumblr are way too carried away with feminism, harrasment, social stuctures, society and every other thing thst can be seen as racist, homophobic, transphobic, anti feminist, opressors.

firstladyjbko:

abnourmal:

honestly, I feel like everyone is just looking for every oppurtunity to look smart and politically correct. Can we all just be fucking nice and equal and problem solved. Go outside, talk to someone. Yes there are some awful people out in the world but dont talk yourself into conspiracies and shit about everyone on earth. People are generally GOOD.

Agreed. Bored of the “I’m offended!” brigade.

jinxbaka:

I noticed that the person who made me this doesn’t have their tumblr anymore or they changed URL’s and it saddens me, cause I cant give the correct source :c but I figured I would share it because it’s really great and Idk if I have before or not.

(Source: mcspiffyy)

send me a: "✎" and i'll handwrite your url
send me a: "✉" and i'll handwrite a little message for you
send me a: "✈" and i'll handwrite the one place I most want to go
send me a: "★" and i'll handwrite my favorite color
send me a: "♥" and i'll draw you a picture
send me a: "☀" and i'll handwrite my favorite season
send me a: "✦" and i'll handwrite my favorite animal
send me a: "☮" and i'll handwrite my tumblr crushes
send me a: "♪" and i'll handwrite my favorite genre of music
send me a: "♫" and i'll handwrite my favorite singer or group
send me a: "✂" and i'll handwrite something I find attractive
send me a: "✔" and i'll handwrite my favorite movie
send me a: "✮" and i'll handwrite my favorite food
send me a: "☾" and i'll draw something of your choice
send me a: "☁" and i'll write something of your choice